As I journey through life and this phase of motherhood I am constantly learning more and more lessons about myself and the world…from my kids and my parents.
They constantly teach me how much patience and love I have in me. I’m not quite sure where it is stored or comes from but it’s there…in overwhelming abundance. And I am so grateful to be blessed with the experience.
Today I had a lovely chat and interview on the other side of town and I was asked, “What’s the one piece of advice you would give to new mums?” When you first become a mum there seems to be an avalanche of tips and advice that is thrown over to you by well-meaning people. Out of all of the ones I’ve received so far, nothing beats advice from my mum about attitude:
I was so exhausted and delirious from the lack of sleep I was getting the other month. It was just one of the days where nothing would go “right” and the kids wouldn’t sleep, I had no rest, I wasn’t able to get any cleaning, washing, blogging, or anything else done. I was so fed up and frustrated that I just snapped at everyone and got irritated by everything turning my day/week into a miserable one.
Mum said “It’s all in your attitude. You cannot control everything. But the one thing you can control is how you deal with the things that happen around you. Your attitude determines how your day will go and you must remember that you are never given anything in life that you can’t handle. Always have faith and trust that you can do it, that you can handle it. You are strong.”
I’ve heard this before from different people at work, on podcasts and books. But the thing that made the difference is the timeliness of the advice. And Mum seems to know when I need to hear different things!
I also recently read a page of a book to my 3 year old, Daniel, which covered the topic of attitude on its first page and gave a couple of quotes that again served as a reminder to me to stop and breathe before I get angry at something and just find a way to deal with it.
Whether you think you can or think you cannot, you are right.
– Henry Ford
One of the few things in life that we have total control over is our attitude. Notice how much easier it is to get things done when you decide to try.
– A is for Attitude – A little book of inspiration and encouragement for people of all ages.
Written and Illustrated by Julie Davey
I can’t remember where I got this cute little picture book from…I think it was from one of those bounty bags you get that’s filled with helpful things for mama and baby but it echoed the same advice Mum gave me.
So to all you new mothers out there who are up right now…or at 3am in the morning feeling so exhausted, drained and unsure, remember that it’s these low times that make the highs even more amazing and special. Enjoy the ride!
Good night friends!